mommy…whats in the word.

 When I was younger and Ethan was my only child I used to think that being a good mommy consisted . making sure he ate the best of the best meals.. extravagant meals… had the best new toys, had a nice looking bedroom.. making sure he was always dressed perfect, always looked perfect.. I thought that feeding him instant oatmeal or cereal for breakfast or spaghetti o's for lunch made me a bad mom ..


2 more kids later I realize that being a good mom has nothing to do with any of that. Being a good mom has to do with putting there needs before mine.. thinking of what is best for them and their future not. What makes me a good mom is I am not selfish with my time.. Do they still get homemade pancakes and eggs and bacon.. yes sometimes but more often then not they eat oatmeal and cereal and spaghetti o's and peanut butter and jelly sandwiches… bc the time i spend actually doing something with them is so much more important then what i do FOR them..


 As they get older and I look back at pictures i miss that time.. I may have been a stay at home mom all these years but i dont feel like I have got to spend a lot of time with them. I miss them being little.. even Elyza even though she is only 3. I can't get that time back and it makes me sad.. I spent the better part of last year being mad at people that dont even matter and that I should of never let into my universe in the first place.. I knew better..  I can't get that time back. I could of been focusing my energy on utilizing the time with my family.

Today I try to be the best mom I can be it doesn't always happen.. so days I'm super mom and other days i have to go to bed upset by the way i spent my day or yelled at the kids and i have to promise myself ill do better tomorrow.

Now does it make me a bad mother because I dont parent the way that you do , do the same schooling that you do, dress my kids like you do or cook the way you do ?? No and vise versa. Just because moms choose to parent differently doesn't make them a bad parent.. It doesn't  give me or you the right to judge anyone.. It doesn't make me wrong or you wrong.. so just remember that next time you decide to judge someone on there parenting.. or judge someone about anything having to do with there family.. my family is not your family.

I dont like being judged by other people by there standards on what a mom should do or say or teach or whatever.. It is probably one of  my HOT buttons.. because I have tried my very best to be a good mom to my children and when someone talks about my parenting or judges my parenting based on there life style it makes me want to beat someone. I pray a lot for Gods guidance for my children bc I dont want to ever make hasty  and selfish decisions about something bc of whats easier or better for me… I want it to be about them.. I dont want to be pushed by people about how they should be taught or what they should eat and I sure as heck dont want someone to try to make me feel like I am less of a mom because I dont go out back and cut the heads off chickens for my dinner.. (sorry for the graphic reference)..


I hope that I have never ever made someone to feel like less of a mother bc of something I have said or done in there company.. If i have ever I sincerely apologize.

As always i have run off on a tangent.. sorry about that..